Love

Love. Its a verb, a noun, an adjective. Its simple and complex.  Love is this amazing intangible emotion, expression, feeling, belief, experience that even when described and discussed at great lengths can never be truly understood until you have walked in it, flown in it, muddled in it, reveled in it, pained in it, joyed and been overwhelmingly awed in it.

Love is so unique that each person experiences it in their own way, but those who have had the opportunity to open their heart to it share a universality, understanding and common spirit of love’s awesomeness.  I see mothers who love their children and friends who love one another, families whose hearts bolster with love toward each other. Their is also quiet love, unspoken love, secret love, but the most rewarding love is the kind you aren’t afraid to scream from the rooftops about. The kind of love that brings a smile to your lips when you awake or think about the person you love. The kind of love that makes you feel all giddy when you catch a glimpse of the love of your life. There is also that swelling in your heart for the prideful sweet love you feel for your children.

Ahhhh, amore…don’t ya just love love? I’m wishing you all much love today!

How Past Experiences Influence Future Choices

Past experiences play a huge role in the lives of people and the choices they make. Depending on the theoretical framework you pull from, past experiences may play a significant role in the treatment plan or may not be a focal point at all. For example, in Solution focused therapy attention is focused on what is going right, small goals, and what they can do now to change the problem they came into therapy for. Therefore, little treatment focus is placed on past experiences. Gestalt is all about “promoting awareness through experiences in the here and now…as people become more aware they reconnect with parts of themselves they may have been cut off from (Seligman 2010).” So, basically being aware of how your past has influenced your current position in life, how it has impacted your choices, and being focused on emotions, experiences and sensations to promote growth and change in your life. Existential therapy places focus on choices and finding meaning in life. The past here is used to honor the meanings you have found from life experiences. Adler, Erickson and Freud all felt that the past holds the key to understanding your conscious self. The past influences us; from the teacher who made me feel special in kindergarten to the first boy who broke my heart and especially to the family members that taught me what family and relationships look like (or sometimes shouldn’t look like), the past impacts your choices and your future. The cool part about this thing called life is that we do have a choice in our behaviors and we can work towards a life that gives us meaning and self-actualization. Read More