Little things matter

Most days we float around in our own little world having no idea the impact we can have on others. From the passing smile to a stranger, the phone call to a customer, the angry eyes we give a loved one when they annoy us, even having a chance to vote, calling a friend or family member to catch up or giving our best effort towards activities we are a part of. These small things can make a big difference. In this big world that constantly tells us through media, politics, and consumerism that we are not enough, that we need something or someone to be of value, we may start to question how our involvement could matter. The American culture is one of individualistic mindsets. We don’t know our neighbors, we are too busy to build deep relationships with our coworkers – who may be competition, even our kids spend less time cultivating face to face relationships and instead spend time online or texting. The value of face to face connections, of a hug, smile or handshake cannot be underestimated. Continue reading

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Counseling Theories

What did I learned in my last Counseling class before my field experience?  I thought I knew something about Counseling Theorists, but then Dr. D had this way of showing you the theories in such a way that they really stick.

The class structure was a great format to dissect and dig into theories.  The process of presentation followed by professor overview, then movement into a live role play, and finally into an activity created an environment of learning that leaves room for participation, learning and feedback.  I got the most from the role plays, as these helped me see how different theories can impact individuals and problems.  These experiences have helped me choose the theories that I believe in and trust will work for my style and my view of human nature and development.  I have learned that theory is the second most important part of working with clients. Continue reading

Outcome accomplished, and a new journey begins!

Last week I wrote about finding that path to extraordinary and how my journey began when I decided to change my mind to become lighter and more agile.  The specific goal?  To run a  half-marathon!  On Sunday, I did it!  We fared the cold weather and the misty rain, the hills we had not trained for, and incredibly 3 hours later we were crossing the finish line.  My hubby was my wingman, and even though his pace is much faster than mine, he stayed with me till the finish line.  That support cannot be overlooked.  When we are doing something that requires a change of thinking, it is important to surround yourself with people who are on your side, supportive and believe in you!

During the process, I felt great, happy, and for a moment overwhelmingly proud of myself.  I reflected on who I used to be, and how great it feels to make positive changes for a healthy lifestyle.  Sure there were moments when I had pain in my body, or I was really cold from the weather change and rain, but not once did I ever consider giving up.  That was not an option.  We trained for the half, we put in the work, and we were ready.  Now I wasn’t sure if i would ever do another, but then when I finished and crossed that finish line, that all changed.  If I could do 13.1 in 3 hours with bad weather and hills I had not trained for, then I could blast that time under better conditions!  So, next half-marathon scheduled for March!  The things we can accomplish when we put away the thoughts that sabotage our excellence!

Clarity for extraordinary!

If you told me last year that I would be running a half marathon on October 7, 2012 in Washington DC, I would have told you that you were crazy!  Words like “I can’t, I will never be, I am just not that person” were commonplace in my vocabulary.  Pity, really, when I know from experience, when I really want something I can make it happen.  The only thing that stops me 99% of the time is ME.

So, it all began when my old supervisor taught a lesson one night in group.  Continue reading